Thursday, November 3, 2011

me : foster parenthood : the adjustment period

It's been a little over a week since BB came to live with us and so far, we're all adjusting really well. He's a really good baby. A little fussy at times, but he's got some tummy issues and he's teething so fussiness is perfectly permissible. 

With our last foster placement, the kids adjusted really quickly but it took us a while to get adjusted to the new routine, the new schedule, the new demands on our time and lives. With BB, it's all coming more quickly. We're settling into this new life as parents of a baby boy pretty easily. He's lovely and adorable and I can't get enough of him.

A part of me wants to be the responsible, educated parent that has their baby on a schedule and is teaching them to be independent. Another part of me wants to just hold him and snuggle him and completely surround him with warmth, love and happiness. Because who knows how much (or how little) of that he got before us. But, I guess, the routine that we're falling into is a pretty good blend of both. He's getting lots of warmth, but he's also learning that he doesn't get to be held all day every day. He's getting lots of love, but he's also being told no when he does things he's not supposed to. He's getting lots of happiness, but he's... well... he's just getting lots of happiness. :)

You never know what the adjustment period is going to be like with a foster placement. We had no idea what to expect with LB and LG and we had no idea what to expect with BB. But I think we did a good job with LB and LG and I think we're doing good with BB. It may not be the way the experts do it, it may not be the way Granny used to do it, but it's the way we're doing it and as some one told me recently, if it's working for us, then keep doing it. 

Did I mention that his wheezing has stopped? He was wheezing so horribly when he came to us, we were pretty worried about it, but I noticed yesterday and today that he's not wheezing at all!!! Pretty excited about that!

I love singing to him all sorts of fun songs. Everything from "You Are My Sunshine" to "Oh What a Beautiful Morning". I like him to have a variety of nursery rhymes, lullabies, secular music, show tunes and of course various Christian music. Joey is singing lots of Acapella to him. I'm not crazy about that but I'll let it slide... haha. 

I really wish I could show you pictures of him. But maybe one day... ;)

But for now, here's a great pic of us on Halloween. With me apparently holding a large oval aka the cutest little monkey you've ever seen. :) 


  1. That looks like an excellent oval to me! :)

    (I think I would so the same: give him warmth until I know he's filled to the brim with it!)

  2. I'm glad you are so happy, you can see it just bubbling up out of your post. I'm sure that BB is enjoying himself too :-)

  3. Aww- enjoy him. I think every parent (maybe moms especially) have to worry about all these balances. Sometimes it feels like we're doing it right, and other times, not so much.
    I'm sure he's soaking up the love from you:)

  4. Glad you are adjusting. I had the same struggles....schedule or snuggles?? I opted in favor of snuggles. LOL
    Cute pic!

  5. Hugs... for all.. yes, you are showing love both ways.. your way.. so proud of you.. yes, sing to him.. both of you.. varity of music.
    love you.

  6. So proud of you and happy for you! Enjoy every minute! You do look so happy!!!

  7. aw!! such a cute little oval!

    treasure every minute- even the fussy ones will not last!

  8. I am sure you are doing a wonderful job!!! Enjoy every minute. I can remember when I first got Ashley I was so nervous that I was doing something wrong. - I wish that I enjoyed that time more. Now she just turned 4 in October and we are loving every minute. Time goes so fast :)


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