Thursday, May 5, 2011

inspiration : thursday thoughtfuls : for the moms

This Sunday is Mother's Day. There was a time when I would walk the aisles of (usually) Wal-Mart, shopping for Mother's Day cards with bitterness, resentment and disappointment running through my veins and in my heart. I hated Mother's Day. In my view, my biological mother had left me at the age of 3 to start a new life with a new husband and later a new baby. My step-mother was cold, distant, and although she loved me the best way she could (I think) my already battered heart was often broken by her callous words and indifferent attitude.

In my mind, I didn't have a "mom" so I hated Mother's Day. The only upside, was buying a card for Granny. Granny was the mom I didn't have growing up and she is the biggest part of who I am today. Granny was the shining light in a world of darkness on Mother's Day, and pretty much every day.

But then, things changed. My step-mother passed away in 2004. I was angry with her at first because all my life, I thought that we would eventually have time to form that mother-daughter relationship that I'd always wanted, and here she was stealing it away from me. I've forgiven her for that, and I like to think I'm healed from those wounds. Well, maybe not completely, but I'm on my way.

In 2003 my Mom and I began working on our relationship. I called her more, wrote her more and we even met up at a pizza place one time so I could ask her all those "tough" questions I'd battled with all my life. By 2006, when I got married, my Mom was close enough to me that she did the entire reception: decorations, food, everything. [Our wedding colors were white, teal and silver and she even went through the trouble of dying the water in the flower vases teal. Yeah, she'd become that kind of Mom.] Move forward to Feb. 14th, 2010, and a chain of events were revealed that shed new light on why my mom really left all of us and started a new life. And NONE of it was what I thought. I'll spare you the details now, but just know that my Mom did not willingly leave us kids behind and that she grieved for years because in many ways, she lost us when she left.

In light of the information I've learned since Feb. 14th, 2010, my whole perspective and view of my mother has changed. And for the first time in my entire life (that I can remember at least) I am excited about Mother's Day. This weekend I'm going to go buy my mom and I matching necklaces (she doesn't read my blog [that I know of] so I'm not worried about the secret getting out... haha) and I'm going to buy her a mushy, gushy card and at the end of the month, when I get to take the 12 hour drive to her house in Oklahoma, I'll give her her gifts and get to spend almost a week with her, catching up on lost time and the conversations we never got to have. I'm so excited!

But for now, I'll leave you with some of the cute and meaningful "mom quotes" that I found to share this week with you for thursday thoughtfuls. Enjoy & if you've made it through all of that, well, thanks for reading... it means a lot to me:

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So true, right? I know my mom is slowly becoming my go-to person when I really need to talk and can't talk to Joey.


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Knowing what I know now, yep, for sure!

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And as I am currently traveling on the journey of foster parenthood, I need reminders like this.  
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Okay, so maybe this is a bit biased, etc., but it made me laugh so I had to include it.

Alright, well that concludes this week's thursday thoughtfuls.
HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY EVERYONE!

Does anyone have any spectacular plans or gifts in mind for their mothers?

2 comments:

  1. I'm sorry you had such a rough start in life, but happy for you that you now have a good relationship with your mom. Loved the sayings, made me laugh.
    (ps I found you through etsy)

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  2. Wow Regina...that would be hard to deal with as a child. I"m glad that things are growing better with time.

    I tried to do something special for my mom...so hopefully she'll be happy. I won't be with her this weekend...or my own kiddos for that matter. =( makes me sad...but I know they'll have fun.

    God bless you Regina...and Happy Mother's Day!

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